The Ten of Cups is one of my most favourite cards in the Tarot deck. It’s the card that represents the ultimate romantic dream, to be with your soul mate. It’s a symbol of an enduring and blessed love, domestic bliss, joy, peace, and a family and home with our lover. This is the ultimate wish card for so many of us. It’s our heaven on earth when we wake in each other’s arms.
And who wouldn’t want it? To love and to be loved. It seems so simple. Yet finding and keeping love can be one of the most complicated journeys of our lives. Almost everyone asks me about finding “the one”. If so many of us seem to want this happy ending, true and everlasting love, why is it so complicated? For some of us, we’ve waited so long that at this point, it feels just like a whimsy, an impossible dream and like we should give up rather than continue to hope. After too many disappointments, true love just feels like a fairy tale.
I’m not surprised. In my dating life I’ve been constantly amazed at how many people say they want a relationship or to find “the one”, but when they meet someone genuine they find every reason not to commit, to reject the other person, and to undermine the relationship. Why are we so afraid of love, and so afraid of life working out for a change? So many of us waste our time endlessly on people who don’t deserve us or simply don’t want us and reject those who do. Why?
It feels like in today’s dating world, everyone is searching and window shopping, but no one is buying. There’s an illusion of endless opportunities, prolonged youth, and an overwhelming fear and anxiety in modern life about relationships. It seems so many fear that a relationship is going to be a liability, and forget everything that it could give them. Somehow staying a bachelor seems cool to some men, like they are the lone ranger of love. What they don’t realise is that they’re just going to be alone. So many women are endlessly perfectionistic and unwilling to compromise, looking for the perfect guy and missing their diamond in the rough in the meantime.
Being a psychic or a spiritually minded person doesn’t mean I know everything or get it right in my own life all the time. But one aspect that is very cool is that I get to observe and learn from the guidance about love that comes through from people’s angels and loved ones in Spirit, their higher selves, and even Divinity as they understand it to exist.
The messages that come through above love are so consistent that I’m writing a book of the guidance that I hope will be published one day. There are many lessons, but what seems to be absolutely key is that true love exists, and finding it and keeping it is part of our spiritual journey into self-love, trust, staying open, and keeping the faith. It’s what we learn in finding the strength to dust ourselves off after another heartbreak or rejection and keep holding on. It’s learning what we need to do differently to win. My book will have all the advice, and I will blog much of it in coming days, but the best advice of all so far seems to be to find somebody who is kind to you. For those of us who do want love, let the nice guy or girl finish first for once. Simple but true: love the one who values you. If you can face down your fear of love, you might just find your Ten of Cups.
What do you think, does the fairy tale exist? I’d love to hear your views, so post up on this article in my blog, shoot me an email or come for a chat. I’m here for you when you need an intuitive perspective on your love life. All my love and a thousand blessings,
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