It is really easy when someone rejects you to take it to heart and let it rock your self-esteem. Please don’t! I know it really hurts to feel rejected when someone doesn’t call, your relationship doesn’t progress or ends. Let me take a little of the sting away.
It is important to consider what we can learn and change for the better. However, if you’re finding that you’re feeling really stuck in the hurt and wondering what was wrong with you, it is a sign that you may have wandered off track with your thinking.
While it may seem that there was something wrong or not good enough about you, in truth this is usually not the case. The other person is most often just doing what feels right for them in the moment and this has nothing to do with your worth as a person. It really is all about them and not about you.
Often people only have a superficial perception or image of you. It takes time and effort to really get to know a person. People also project their issues and expectations onto others. Chances are the real you was never rejected at all. Why? Because they never really knew you.
Also, often it is not you being rejected but what you may represent. Someone who just wants to date may turn you down because you want to be in something more than casual. A commitment-phobe may love you deeply but still break up with you because on a deep subconscious level he or she is turning down a committed relationship.
Other people may fear disappointing you, are not ready, can’t meet your needs, still in love with their ex, have a pattern of sabotaging good things, fail to appreciate you, only fancy redheads or have some other random tastes, or have personal issues which block them in love and relationships. None of this has anything to do with you.
There is a difference between disappointment and rejection. The person may have disappointed you but not actually rejected you personally. What other people do is almost never about you. Take back your power and know you are a beautiful and worthy human being, deserving of love, and determine your own value.
There is a soulmate out there who is looking for you and who will be kind, loving and will appreciate you. The sooner you remember your worth, the sooner they can find you.
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